Male RAPE by Women: Myth or Fact?
I just read this in the news :
Three women in Zimbabwe are accused of raping at least four men to get their sperm for traditional rituals. The women, who have been charged with 17 counts of aggravated indecent assault, go on trial today in a case that has shocked the country. Police officials in Zimbabwe believe the alleged perpetrators are part of a nationwide syndicate that may be using the sperm for a traditional ritual claiming to make people lucky and wealthy. They were apprehended in a town about 170 miles outside of the capital city of Harare after police found 31 used condoms in their car. At least nine men have come forward with similar stories of being attacked. One of the alleged victims told his story on a popular national talk show called Maichiamba. He said he was raped after accepting a car ride from the women.
“One of the women threw water in my face and they injected me with something that gave me a strong sexual desire. They stopped the car and made me have sex with each of them several times, using condoms,” he said. “When they had finished they left me in the bush totally naked.” The man said he went to the hospital to be treated for the drug’s effects and called the police. After facing ridicule and scorn over the attack, he said he came forward publicly because he wanted to help other victims.
Female Rapists Go On Trial Today
“I’ve noticed that the men who have come forward are really traumatized after seeking medical assistance of these rapes and need counselling,” Kelvin Hazangwi, National Director of the Padare Menâ’s Forum on Gender, tells ABC News. “Some of them, their partners left them and they could not go back to their families. Their social networks have broken down.”
Hazangwi says that male rape is still a taboo subject in a society that has very clear definitions of masculinity. For example the women have been charged with aggravated indecent assault rather than rape because a man being sexually assaulted by a woman is not recognized under Zimbabwean rape laws.
“This case is shocking not only for the men but also for the society as a whole,” says Hazangwi. “Many people drove to the police station just to get a glimpse or a view of the women that would rape men.”
The women have denied the charges, claiming they are prostitutes and did not have time to dispose of the condoms. Cousins Rosemary Chakwizira, 24, and Sophie Nhokwara, 26 told local media that since being out on $300 bail, they’ve been in hiding after having their lives threatened.
“Are we not suspects until proven guilty? It’s as if people have already made their judgments and found us guilty,” Nhokwara said in an interview with New Zimbabwe.com.
Regardless of the outcome, the case has started a dialogue in the country about attitudes and treatment of sexual violence against men
“We are realizing that rape whether it happens to grandmother, a child, or a man is wrong,” Hazangwi says. Source
Myth or Fact?
Can men be sexually assaulted by women?
In an ideal world, we tend to believe that it is impossible for a man to be raped by a woman. As a man, it is even more embarrassing reporting being raped. Let’s try and put ourselves in that scenario.
911. Hello my name is Jabo, I am a male, a woman just raped me and left me naked in the bush. What will be your response on the other side?
I know what mine would be but I prefer to keep it to myself.
Although 97% are committed by men against women, there is that small percentage rapes being perpetrated by women. The percentage is probably even higher than assumed due to the fact that reporting being raped by a woman minimizes a man’s ego and self-esteem. A REAL man is strong and will never permit himself being attacked, let alone raped by a woman! How woudl he explain being raped to the public and to his peers?
In addition to the constructed ideal of how a REAL MAN should be, the question remains of how is it anatomically possible for a man to get an erection if he does not get excited or at least enjoyed what he was undergoing to the point where ejaculated? Most will think that he must have enjoyed it or was complacent in some way for him to ejaculate.
Fact. Unless unable to erection through medical conditions any manipulation would cause a penis to erect and even more easier with any lubricated substance. It is a proven fact that erection often occurs by men who get a DRE (Digital Rectal Exam) of the prostate at their doctors, examination. Ok gross, but what about ejaculation?
The male often have no control over when his body will react. This is even more the care with simulation. Therefore, a response in the form of an erection does not equate to enjoyment, but rather, a male’s natural reaction his environment. Simulation, in the form of touch or adding of lubricant makes erection and further ejaculation inevitable as it is a male’s natural response to the act being performed.
Even with this understanding of the male anatomy, many of us will still struggle with the idea of a man being raped. However, in light of the above story, it is time that we open our minds and reexamine our understanding of what constitutes as a REAL MAN and open our minds to the fact that men can be victims too.